If you feel good, you could believe that it is due to what is taking place externally. Likewise, if you feel bad, you could also believe that it is due to what is taking place externally.
In both cases, you won't have played a part in how you feel, and you will be nothing more than a passive observer of what is taking place. Therefore, in order for you to feel good, the external world will have to be a certain way.
The Norm
Experiencing life in this way is not exactly going to allow you to feel empowered and as though you have control over your life. You are likely to often feel hopeless and helpless and to see yourself as a powerless victim.
If you were able to take a step back and to reflect on your life, you may see that this is how you have experienced life for as long as you can remember. Like a leaf in the wind; you will be tossed around and unable to do anything about it.
Looking Deeper
However, what if the external world is not completely defining how you feel? What if the external world is largely the result of how you feel, meaning the external world is mirroring back your internal world?
In this case, what is going on 'out there' is secondary and what is taking place inside you is primary. You are then not merely a passive observer of your life; you are a co-creator of it.
The Connection
To realise what is going on, it will be essential for you to pay attention to how you feel. Without this understanding, you will miss out on the cause and only be aware of the effect of how you feel.
It might seem strange as to how the feelings that are inside you could impact your life. The reason for this is that you are not separate from anyone or anything, even though that may appear to be so.
The Big Illusion
Your mind creates the impression that you are just observing reality, which is why this can be hard to accept. At a deeper level, or at a level that your fives senses are unable to detect, there is no separation between you or anything else.
And while your body and the world around you appear to be solid, this is also not the truth - or is it the truth, but only at a certain level of perception. For something to be solid, it has to vibrate at a certain frequency.
The Law of Resonance
So if you forget for a moment that you have a physical body and to see yourself as vibrating energy, how you experience life will start to make more sense. The feelings that you have, along with your thoughts and beliefs, will create a frequency, and what is in alignment with this frequency is what will define what you can or can't experience.
Through not having this understanding, it will be perfectly normal for you to feel like a victim of circumstances. Another thing that needs to be mentioned is that it is not just the feelings you are consciously aware of that have an impact; it is also the feelings that are deep inside your unconscious mind.
Over to You
If your life is not how you would like it to be, the first step will be to become aware of how you feel. One thing that you could do is to notice what feelings you typically experience and to make a note of them in a journal.
By doing this, you may start to understand why you have the experiences that you have. The next step will be to decide what you would like to experience and to allow yourself to feel the feelings that will allow you to change your reality.
How Can I Serve You?
It will also be necessary for you to look into what you believe and to heal any emotional wounds you may have, as your limiting beliefs and emotional wounds can prevent you from creating the life you desire. If you can relate to what I have written and need additional support, one of the ways that I can provide this is through the personalised consultations that I offer via Skype or Zoom.
To find out more, please go to http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/consultations. If you are committed to your own healing, it would be an honour to assist you on your journey.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
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Friday, 31 July 2020
Thursday, 30 July 2020
Wednesday, 29 July 2020
The Meaning of Life
A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he's heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?"
"The meaning of life is a bridge," replies the wise man.
The seeker is incensed. "Wait a minute, what kind of dumb answer is that? I struggled and fought to get here, and that's all you have to say? A bridge? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard!"
The guru blinked, looked at him and said, "You mean... it's not a bridge?"
Most of my clients come to me, not searching for the meaning of life, but focused on some crisis in their lives: a relationship disaster, marriage or family problems, lack of direction and motivation, some huge loss for which they're grieving, an emotional problem such as anxiety or depression, or perhaps even for help in recovering from an addiction. The first thing we do is sort through the crisis, handle immediate problems, and get everything settled down, then we embark on an extended process of figuring out how the problem happened and what must change to keep it from happening again. Once those things are handled, there's a period of bliss or euphoria, when life is working for the first time, they feel successful, calmer, more in charge. Most clients leave at this time.
Then, frequently, they come back asking "Now that I'm in charge of myself, and have a lot of extra energy, because life is a lot easier and my relationships are working, it feels like I'm missing something-what am I doing here?"
This begins a spiritual search for meaning, which I've written about in a couple of books-The Real 13th Step, and The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty.
People for whom the basics of life are already established need more: they need a sense of meaning and a higher purpose than just survival. Once self-confidence and self-esteem are established, you'll need a challenge to feel satisfied, a way to express your uniqueness and individuality to yourself, to friends, and to the world.
But if your life's purpose is not evident to you already, how do you find out what it is? Where does a sense of purpose come from? It comes from within you, and is not imposed or chosen from outside. Your purpose may be your livelihood, or it may have nothing to do with how you make a living. Your purpose may be a simple one, like making a good, healthy life for yourself and your children, or it may be more dramatic, and based on what you learned by healing your own childhood experience. Many people know that inner purpose has the power to transform anxiety, anger, fear and rage into powerful, life-affirming action:
Dr. Bernie Siegel, a cancer specialist, was discouraged and frustrated about the lack of success of medicine against cancer. He challenged the focus of the medical establishment by looking at patients who had experienced "miracle cures" and "spontaneous remissions." Although he was ridiculed by his peers, he persevered, and out of it he developed a new way of enlisting the patient's own healing capability, outlined in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles.
Cleve Jones turned his rage, bitterness and grief about AIDS into the Names Project Memorial Quilt, which has helped people throughout the world express, heal and understand the grief resulting from this tragic epidemic.
After her thirteen-year-old daughter was killed by a drunken driver, Candy Lightner used the power of her grief and rage to found Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), to combat the problem and prevent the senseless deaths of other children.
Sojourner Truth, an African-American and former slave, was instrumental in developing the Underground Railway to guide slaves to freedom before and during the American Civil War.
Ron Kovic, paralyzed from the waist down as a soldier in Vietnam, turned first to alcoholism, but then recovered and channeled his resentment and rage into anti-war protest, and later wrote the best selling book and Oscar-winning movie script, Born on the Fourth of July.
A life purpose gives you the means to control your destiny, no matter what the force of the hardships you have incurred. Most of the world's spiritual thinkers have said that the wisdom guiding each of us is available if we just listen and trust what we hear. You may already be having many ideas but not be trusting them or taking them seriously. Perhaps when you get an idea what your "job on earth", or life's purpose is, you are too distrustful of yourself, (I can't do that) or too hopeless and helpless to believe it or act on it. Your purpose may make itself clear to you in one instant flash, or gradually, as if you are following clues, one at a time. Whether you get it all at once or a piece at a time, it will still take work and experience to bring it about. Inner wisdom is not rational or practical in nature, but more intuitive and spiritual. It can provide a way to see the big picture, or a more detached and objective viewpoint of the issues and problems of life. Each new idea must be tested through practical use, to see how it works. Step by step, using both intuitive wisdom and clear thinking, you can bring your inner motivation to the surface and use it to create what you want. Your combination of inspiration expressed through action becomes the bridge to the meaning of your own life. - From It Ends with You
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10302886
"The meaning of life is a bridge," replies the wise man.
The seeker is incensed. "Wait a minute, what kind of dumb answer is that? I struggled and fought to get here, and that's all you have to say? A bridge? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard!"
The guru blinked, looked at him and said, "You mean... it's not a bridge?"
Most of my clients come to me, not searching for the meaning of life, but focused on some crisis in their lives: a relationship disaster, marriage or family problems, lack of direction and motivation, some huge loss for which they're grieving, an emotional problem such as anxiety or depression, or perhaps even for help in recovering from an addiction. The first thing we do is sort through the crisis, handle immediate problems, and get everything settled down, then we embark on an extended process of figuring out how the problem happened and what must change to keep it from happening again. Once those things are handled, there's a period of bliss or euphoria, when life is working for the first time, they feel successful, calmer, more in charge. Most clients leave at this time.
Then, frequently, they come back asking "Now that I'm in charge of myself, and have a lot of extra energy, because life is a lot easier and my relationships are working, it feels like I'm missing something-what am I doing here?"
This begins a spiritual search for meaning, which I've written about in a couple of books-The Real 13th Step, and The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty.
People for whom the basics of life are already established need more: they need a sense of meaning and a higher purpose than just survival. Once self-confidence and self-esteem are established, you'll need a challenge to feel satisfied, a way to express your uniqueness and individuality to yourself, to friends, and to the world.
But if your life's purpose is not evident to you already, how do you find out what it is? Where does a sense of purpose come from? It comes from within you, and is not imposed or chosen from outside. Your purpose may be your livelihood, or it may have nothing to do with how you make a living. Your purpose may be a simple one, like making a good, healthy life for yourself and your children, or it may be more dramatic, and based on what you learned by healing your own childhood experience. Many people know that inner purpose has the power to transform anxiety, anger, fear and rage into powerful, life-affirming action:
Dr. Bernie Siegel, a cancer specialist, was discouraged and frustrated about the lack of success of medicine against cancer. He challenged the focus of the medical establishment by looking at patients who had experienced "miracle cures" and "spontaneous remissions." Although he was ridiculed by his peers, he persevered, and out of it he developed a new way of enlisting the patient's own healing capability, outlined in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles.
Cleve Jones turned his rage, bitterness and grief about AIDS into the Names Project Memorial Quilt, which has helped people throughout the world express, heal and understand the grief resulting from this tragic epidemic.
After her thirteen-year-old daughter was killed by a drunken driver, Candy Lightner used the power of her grief and rage to found Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), to combat the problem and prevent the senseless deaths of other children.
Sojourner Truth, an African-American and former slave, was instrumental in developing the Underground Railway to guide slaves to freedom before and during the American Civil War.
Ron Kovic, paralyzed from the waist down as a soldier in Vietnam, turned first to alcoholism, but then recovered and channeled his resentment and rage into anti-war protest, and later wrote the best selling book and Oscar-winning movie script, Born on the Fourth of July.
A life purpose gives you the means to control your destiny, no matter what the force of the hardships you have incurred. Most of the world's spiritual thinkers have said that the wisdom guiding each of us is available if we just listen and trust what we hear. You may already be having many ideas but not be trusting them or taking them seriously. Perhaps when you get an idea what your "job on earth", or life's purpose is, you are too distrustful of yourself, (I can't do that) or too hopeless and helpless to believe it or act on it. Your purpose may make itself clear to you in one instant flash, or gradually, as if you are following clues, one at a time. Whether you get it all at once or a piece at a time, it will still take work and experience to bring it about. Inner wisdom is not rational or practical in nature, but more intuitive and spiritual. It can provide a way to see the big picture, or a more detached and objective viewpoint of the issues and problems of life. Each new idea must be tested through practical use, to see how it works. Step by step, using both intuitive wisdom and clear thinking, you can bring your inner motivation to the surface and use it to create what you want. Your combination of inspiration expressed through action becomes the bridge to the meaning of your own life. - From It Ends with You
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10302886
Tuesday, 28 July 2020
Monday, 27 July 2020
True Nature of Reality
Each moment of our life is filled with impermanence and yet the common tendency is to not pay attention to it at all unless acquainted to do so. Upon waking-up, is your first thought about impermanence? Very unlikely so! Yet, a night went by and from that moment impermanence looms on anything from anywhere. Can you claim otherwise? Is there anything that exists permanently without change? Leave the room, the moment is gone. Who knows if you will return! What spontaneously comes to mind when talking about impermanence is Buddhism. Have you ever considered your mortality, your changeability? Have you observed the disruption that impermanence creates around happiness? Why is that so? Why is the mind so attached to permanency?
It is the mind that gives power to permanency, which, in itself does not exist. Introspection of the mind is your best tool to observe and understand the tricks the mind plays on the true nature of reality. The true nature of reality is made of impermanence and changeability and through a progressive practice of introspection, it becomes possible to detect attachment to form, shapes, odors, colors, emotions, and dispel the tendency of becoming acquainted with attachment. Would you try? Would you accept to sit every day even if only for ten minutes and observe the mind's tricking games? Maybe you would hesitate, thinking that it would divert your attention to other more important business matters. However a fantasy world it may appear to be, meditation is a great training tool for the mind to calm down, pace down, reflect on the true nature of reality, impermanence. Thoughts pass like clouds in the sky. Something that was attracting attention, at times maybe obsessively, becomes redundant, disappears, opinion changes, emotions pace down, anxiety settles. Neuroscientific studies bring solid evidence that meditation is not only a mind's training tool, and rather a wellness generator for the brain by stimulating a process called neurogenesis, the production of new neurons. This means that even ten minutes of meditation per day, can, in the medium and long terms generate new neurons, simply by teaching the mind to practice discernment.
The true nature of reality is of changeability, and sitting down with regular punctuality even ten minutes a day, bring vast mind's rewiring effects, that may, in the long run, contribute to maintaining a healthy state of mind.
Don't humans live in their mind? Even a healthy and fit body has a mind which requires the same amount of training and wellness than the physical body.
Would you give it a try?
I have written a book full of resources on how to train the mind. I was burdened by heavy grief and passed the excruciating test of impermanence digging in the mind and body tools most available at hand. https://authorcentral.amazon.com/gp/profile
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10305490
It is the mind that gives power to permanency, which, in itself does not exist. Introspection of the mind is your best tool to observe and understand the tricks the mind plays on the true nature of reality. The true nature of reality is made of impermanence and changeability and through a progressive practice of introspection, it becomes possible to detect attachment to form, shapes, odors, colors, emotions, and dispel the tendency of becoming acquainted with attachment. Would you try? Would you accept to sit every day even if only for ten minutes and observe the mind's tricking games? Maybe you would hesitate, thinking that it would divert your attention to other more important business matters. However a fantasy world it may appear to be, meditation is a great training tool for the mind to calm down, pace down, reflect on the true nature of reality, impermanence. Thoughts pass like clouds in the sky. Something that was attracting attention, at times maybe obsessively, becomes redundant, disappears, opinion changes, emotions pace down, anxiety settles. Neuroscientific studies bring solid evidence that meditation is not only a mind's training tool, and rather a wellness generator for the brain by stimulating a process called neurogenesis, the production of new neurons. This means that even ten minutes of meditation per day, can, in the medium and long terms generate new neurons, simply by teaching the mind to practice discernment.
The true nature of reality is of changeability, and sitting down with regular punctuality even ten minutes a day, bring vast mind's rewiring effects, that may, in the long run, contribute to maintaining a healthy state of mind.
Don't humans live in their mind? Even a healthy and fit body has a mind which requires the same amount of training and wellness than the physical body.
Would you give it a try?
I have written a book full of resources on how to train the mind. I was burdened by heavy grief and passed the excruciating test of impermanence digging in the mind and body tools most available at hand. https://authorcentral.amazon.com/gp/profile
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10305490
Sunday, 26 July 2020
Saturday, 25 July 2020
What Is the Relationship Between Time and Motivation?
Do you use your time wisely and motivate yourself also? What is the relationship of time with motivation? Do you have an idea? Read on to find out.
The more you motivate yourself, the more you will get done in good time. If you lose your motivation, you will lose time, not being able to focus or concentrate. So it is important for you to motivate yourself all the time.
You should keep inspirational quotes, eBooks and audio around you always so that your motivation level remains high and you are able to get a lot done.
Time doesn't wait. And motivation doesn't last. You could be in the danger of losing good time. What is the remedy?
Get yourself motivated again. Ask yourself why the task at hand is interesting? How could you optimize it? How could it benefit others? What are the steps? Answering these questions gets yourself into the flow and you make good use of time once again.
This way motivation and time go hand in hand. If you are working as a team, it's important that you appreciate their input, how much little that may be so that they feel encouraged to make their contributions zealously and the deadline is met. So you see it becomes more complex. Not only you stay motivated but also your entire team needs motivation so that they work with spirit and enthusiasm, without losing time.
Since motivation doesn't last, it is recommended daily. Daily you need to boost yourself and others for beneficial output in the right amount of time. Share wise quotes, books and audio that you use with others and make them soar. They won't lag behind but rather be inspired to get ahead in their task load.
Once you and your team make it using the motivational tools, it becomes a game of life to win every time. The motivational spirit remains high that way. What more, the higher authorities notice your good contributions and may decide to reward you and your team with raises or even promotions.
That way the motivational spirit lives on and on and you become even better at the game of life with your team and each time you get wiser and more knowledgeable, gaining more expertise, which in turn makes you more in demand. You get more determined to win and hardly fail time. Remember, it all started with an effort to raise your motivation level.
Rosina S Khan has authored this article. For a wealth of free resources based on stunning fiction stories and academic guides, amazing self-help eBooks, articles and blogs, all authored by her, and much more, visit: https://rosinaskhan.weebly.com. You will be glad that you did.
Alternatively, for a different layout of free resources, visit: http://www.facebook.com/RosinaSKhan.hub. You won't be disappointed and remember to like her Facebook page.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10310959
The more you motivate yourself, the more you will get done in good time. If you lose your motivation, you will lose time, not being able to focus or concentrate. So it is important for you to motivate yourself all the time.
You should keep inspirational quotes, eBooks and audio around you always so that your motivation level remains high and you are able to get a lot done.
Time doesn't wait. And motivation doesn't last. You could be in the danger of losing good time. What is the remedy?
Get yourself motivated again. Ask yourself why the task at hand is interesting? How could you optimize it? How could it benefit others? What are the steps? Answering these questions gets yourself into the flow and you make good use of time once again.
This way motivation and time go hand in hand. If you are working as a team, it's important that you appreciate their input, how much little that may be so that they feel encouraged to make their contributions zealously and the deadline is met. So you see it becomes more complex. Not only you stay motivated but also your entire team needs motivation so that they work with spirit and enthusiasm, without losing time.
Since motivation doesn't last, it is recommended daily. Daily you need to boost yourself and others for beneficial output in the right amount of time. Share wise quotes, books and audio that you use with others and make them soar. They won't lag behind but rather be inspired to get ahead in their task load.
Once you and your team make it using the motivational tools, it becomes a game of life to win every time. The motivational spirit remains high that way. What more, the higher authorities notice your good contributions and may decide to reward you and your team with raises or even promotions.
That way the motivational spirit lives on and on and you become even better at the game of life with your team and each time you get wiser and more knowledgeable, gaining more expertise, which in turn makes you more in demand. You get more determined to win and hardly fail time. Remember, it all started with an effort to raise your motivation level.
Rosina S Khan has authored this article. For a wealth of free resources based on stunning fiction stories and academic guides, amazing self-help eBooks, articles and blogs, all authored by her, and much more, visit: https://rosinaskhan.weebly.com. You will be glad that you did.
Alternatively, for a different layout of free resources, visit: http://www.facebook.com/RosinaSKhan.hub. You won't be disappointed and remember to like her Facebook page.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10310959
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