If you feel good, you could believe that it is due to what is taking place externally. Likewise, if you feel bad, you could also believe that it is due to what is taking place externally.
In both cases, you won't have played a part in how you feel, and you will be nothing more than a passive observer of what is taking place. Therefore, in order for you to feel good, the external world will have to be a certain way.
The Norm
Experiencing life in this way is not exactly going to allow you to feel empowered and as though you have control over your life. You are likely to often feel hopeless and helpless and to see yourself as a powerless victim.
If you were able to take a step back and to reflect on your life, you may see that this is how you have experienced life for as long as you can remember. Like a leaf in the wind; you will be tossed around and unable to do anything about it.
Looking Deeper
However, what if the external world is not completely defining how you feel? What if the external world is largely the result of how you feel, meaning the external world is mirroring back your internal world?
In this case, what is going on 'out there' is secondary and what is taking place inside you is primary. You are then not merely a passive observer of your life; you are a co-creator of it.
The Connection
To realise what is going on, it will be essential for you to pay attention to how you feel. Without this understanding, you will miss out on the cause and only be aware of the effect of how you feel.
It might seem strange as to how the feelings that are inside you could impact your life. The reason for this is that you are not separate from anyone or anything, even though that may appear to be so.
The Big Illusion
Your mind creates the impression that you are just observing reality, which is why this can be hard to accept. At a deeper level, or at a level that your fives senses are unable to detect, there is no separation between you or anything else.
And while your body and the world around you appear to be solid, this is also not the truth - or is it the truth, but only at a certain level of perception. For something to be solid, it has to vibrate at a certain frequency.
The Law of Resonance
So if you forget for a moment that you have a physical body and to see yourself as vibrating energy, how you experience life will start to make more sense. The feelings that you have, along with your thoughts and beliefs, will create a frequency, and what is in alignment with this frequency is what will define what you can or can't experience.
Through not having this understanding, it will be perfectly normal for you to feel like a victim of circumstances. Another thing that needs to be mentioned is that it is not just the feelings you are consciously aware of that have an impact; it is also the feelings that are deep inside your unconscious mind.
Over to You
If your life is not how you would like it to be, the first step will be to become aware of how you feel. One thing that you could do is to notice what feelings you typically experience and to make a note of them in a journal.
By doing this, you may start to understand why you have the experiences that you have. The next step will be to decide what you would like to experience and to allow yourself to feel the feelings that will allow you to change your reality.
How Can I Serve You?
It will also be necessary for you to look into what you believe and to heal any emotional wounds you may have, as your limiting beliefs and emotional wounds can prevent you from creating the life you desire. If you can relate to what I have written and need additional support, one of the ways that I can provide this is through the personalised consultations that I offer via Skype or Zoom.
To find out more, please go to http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/consultations. If you are committed to your own healing, it would be an honour to assist you on your journey.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
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Friday, 31 July 2020
Thursday, 30 July 2020
Wednesday, 29 July 2020
The Meaning of Life
A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he's heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?"
"The meaning of life is a bridge," replies the wise man.
The seeker is incensed. "Wait a minute, what kind of dumb answer is that? I struggled and fought to get here, and that's all you have to say? A bridge? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard!"
The guru blinked, looked at him and said, "You mean... it's not a bridge?"
Most of my clients come to me, not searching for the meaning of life, but focused on some crisis in their lives: a relationship disaster, marriage or family problems, lack of direction and motivation, some huge loss for which they're grieving, an emotional problem such as anxiety or depression, or perhaps even for help in recovering from an addiction. The first thing we do is sort through the crisis, handle immediate problems, and get everything settled down, then we embark on an extended process of figuring out how the problem happened and what must change to keep it from happening again. Once those things are handled, there's a period of bliss or euphoria, when life is working for the first time, they feel successful, calmer, more in charge. Most clients leave at this time.
Then, frequently, they come back asking "Now that I'm in charge of myself, and have a lot of extra energy, because life is a lot easier and my relationships are working, it feels like I'm missing something-what am I doing here?"
This begins a spiritual search for meaning, which I've written about in a couple of books-The Real 13th Step, and The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty.
People for whom the basics of life are already established need more: they need a sense of meaning and a higher purpose than just survival. Once self-confidence and self-esteem are established, you'll need a challenge to feel satisfied, a way to express your uniqueness and individuality to yourself, to friends, and to the world.
But if your life's purpose is not evident to you already, how do you find out what it is? Where does a sense of purpose come from? It comes from within you, and is not imposed or chosen from outside. Your purpose may be your livelihood, or it may have nothing to do with how you make a living. Your purpose may be a simple one, like making a good, healthy life for yourself and your children, or it may be more dramatic, and based on what you learned by healing your own childhood experience. Many people know that inner purpose has the power to transform anxiety, anger, fear and rage into powerful, life-affirming action:
Dr. Bernie Siegel, a cancer specialist, was discouraged and frustrated about the lack of success of medicine against cancer. He challenged the focus of the medical establishment by looking at patients who had experienced "miracle cures" and "spontaneous remissions." Although he was ridiculed by his peers, he persevered, and out of it he developed a new way of enlisting the patient's own healing capability, outlined in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles.
Cleve Jones turned his rage, bitterness and grief about AIDS into the Names Project Memorial Quilt, which has helped people throughout the world express, heal and understand the grief resulting from this tragic epidemic.
After her thirteen-year-old daughter was killed by a drunken driver, Candy Lightner used the power of her grief and rage to found Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), to combat the problem and prevent the senseless deaths of other children.
Sojourner Truth, an African-American and former slave, was instrumental in developing the Underground Railway to guide slaves to freedom before and during the American Civil War.
Ron Kovic, paralyzed from the waist down as a soldier in Vietnam, turned first to alcoholism, but then recovered and channeled his resentment and rage into anti-war protest, and later wrote the best selling book and Oscar-winning movie script, Born on the Fourth of July.
A life purpose gives you the means to control your destiny, no matter what the force of the hardships you have incurred. Most of the world's spiritual thinkers have said that the wisdom guiding each of us is available if we just listen and trust what we hear. You may already be having many ideas but not be trusting them or taking them seriously. Perhaps when you get an idea what your "job on earth", or life's purpose is, you are too distrustful of yourself, (I can't do that) or too hopeless and helpless to believe it or act on it. Your purpose may make itself clear to you in one instant flash, or gradually, as if you are following clues, one at a time. Whether you get it all at once or a piece at a time, it will still take work and experience to bring it about. Inner wisdom is not rational or practical in nature, but more intuitive and spiritual. It can provide a way to see the big picture, or a more detached and objective viewpoint of the issues and problems of life. Each new idea must be tested through practical use, to see how it works. Step by step, using both intuitive wisdom and clear thinking, you can bring your inner motivation to the surface and use it to create what you want. Your combination of inspiration expressed through action becomes the bridge to the meaning of your own life. - From It Ends with You
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10302886
"The meaning of life is a bridge," replies the wise man.
The seeker is incensed. "Wait a minute, what kind of dumb answer is that? I struggled and fought to get here, and that's all you have to say? A bridge? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard!"
The guru blinked, looked at him and said, "You mean... it's not a bridge?"
Most of my clients come to me, not searching for the meaning of life, but focused on some crisis in their lives: a relationship disaster, marriage or family problems, lack of direction and motivation, some huge loss for which they're grieving, an emotional problem such as anxiety or depression, or perhaps even for help in recovering from an addiction. The first thing we do is sort through the crisis, handle immediate problems, and get everything settled down, then we embark on an extended process of figuring out how the problem happened and what must change to keep it from happening again. Once those things are handled, there's a period of bliss or euphoria, when life is working for the first time, they feel successful, calmer, more in charge. Most clients leave at this time.
Then, frequently, they come back asking "Now that I'm in charge of myself, and have a lot of extra energy, because life is a lot easier and my relationships are working, it feels like I'm missing something-what am I doing here?"
This begins a spiritual search for meaning, which I've written about in a couple of books-The Real 13th Step, and The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty.
People for whom the basics of life are already established need more: they need a sense of meaning and a higher purpose than just survival. Once self-confidence and self-esteem are established, you'll need a challenge to feel satisfied, a way to express your uniqueness and individuality to yourself, to friends, and to the world.
But if your life's purpose is not evident to you already, how do you find out what it is? Where does a sense of purpose come from? It comes from within you, and is not imposed or chosen from outside. Your purpose may be your livelihood, or it may have nothing to do with how you make a living. Your purpose may be a simple one, like making a good, healthy life for yourself and your children, or it may be more dramatic, and based on what you learned by healing your own childhood experience. Many people know that inner purpose has the power to transform anxiety, anger, fear and rage into powerful, life-affirming action:
Dr. Bernie Siegel, a cancer specialist, was discouraged and frustrated about the lack of success of medicine against cancer. He challenged the focus of the medical establishment by looking at patients who had experienced "miracle cures" and "spontaneous remissions." Although he was ridiculed by his peers, he persevered, and out of it he developed a new way of enlisting the patient's own healing capability, outlined in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles.
Cleve Jones turned his rage, bitterness and grief about AIDS into the Names Project Memorial Quilt, which has helped people throughout the world express, heal and understand the grief resulting from this tragic epidemic.
After her thirteen-year-old daughter was killed by a drunken driver, Candy Lightner used the power of her grief and rage to found Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), to combat the problem and prevent the senseless deaths of other children.
Sojourner Truth, an African-American and former slave, was instrumental in developing the Underground Railway to guide slaves to freedom before and during the American Civil War.
Ron Kovic, paralyzed from the waist down as a soldier in Vietnam, turned first to alcoholism, but then recovered and channeled his resentment and rage into anti-war protest, and later wrote the best selling book and Oscar-winning movie script, Born on the Fourth of July.
A life purpose gives you the means to control your destiny, no matter what the force of the hardships you have incurred. Most of the world's spiritual thinkers have said that the wisdom guiding each of us is available if we just listen and trust what we hear. You may already be having many ideas but not be trusting them or taking them seriously. Perhaps when you get an idea what your "job on earth", or life's purpose is, you are too distrustful of yourself, (I can't do that) or too hopeless and helpless to believe it or act on it. Your purpose may make itself clear to you in one instant flash, or gradually, as if you are following clues, one at a time. Whether you get it all at once or a piece at a time, it will still take work and experience to bring it about. Inner wisdom is not rational or practical in nature, but more intuitive and spiritual. It can provide a way to see the big picture, or a more detached and objective viewpoint of the issues and problems of life. Each new idea must be tested through practical use, to see how it works. Step by step, using both intuitive wisdom and clear thinking, you can bring your inner motivation to the surface and use it to create what you want. Your combination of inspiration expressed through action becomes the bridge to the meaning of your own life. - From It Ends with You
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10302886
Tuesday, 28 July 2020
Monday, 27 July 2020
True Nature of Reality
Each moment of our life is filled with impermanence and yet the common tendency is to not pay attention to it at all unless acquainted to do so. Upon waking-up, is your first thought about impermanence? Very unlikely so! Yet, a night went by and from that moment impermanence looms on anything from anywhere. Can you claim otherwise? Is there anything that exists permanently without change? Leave the room, the moment is gone. Who knows if you will return! What spontaneously comes to mind when talking about impermanence is Buddhism. Have you ever considered your mortality, your changeability? Have you observed the disruption that impermanence creates around happiness? Why is that so? Why is the mind so attached to permanency?
It is the mind that gives power to permanency, which, in itself does not exist. Introspection of the mind is your best tool to observe and understand the tricks the mind plays on the true nature of reality. The true nature of reality is made of impermanence and changeability and through a progressive practice of introspection, it becomes possible to detect attachment to form, shapes, odors, colors, emotions, and dispel the tendency of becoming acquainted with attachment. Would you try? Would you accept to sit every day even if only for ten minutes and observe the mind's tricking games? Maybe you would hesitate, thinking that it would divert your attention to other more important business matters. However a fantasy world it may appear to be, meditation is a great training tool for the mind to calm down, pace down, reflect on the true nature of reality, impermanence. Thoughts pass like clouds in the sky. Something that was attracting attention, at times maybe obsessively, becomes redundant, disappears, opinion changes, emotions pace down, anxiety settles. Neuroscientific studies bring solid evidence that meditation is not only a mind's training tool, and rather a wellness generator for the brain by stimulating a process called neurogenesis, the production of new neurons. This means that even ten minutes of meditation per day, can, in the medium and long terms generate new neurons, simply by teaching the mind to practice discernment.
The true nature of reality is of changeability, and sitting down with regular punctuality even ten minutes a day, bring vast mind's rewiring effects, that may, in the long run, contribute to maintaining a healthy state of mind.
Don't humans live in their mind? Even a healthy and fit body has a mind which requires the same amount of training and wellness than the physical body.
Would you give it a try?
I have written a book full of resources on how to train the mind. I was burdened by heavy grief and passed the excruciating test of impermanence digging in the mind and body tools most available at hand. https://authorcentral.amazon.com/gp/profile
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10305490
It is the mind that gives power to permanency, which, in itself does not exist. Introspection of the mind is your best tool to observe and understand the tricks the mind plays on the true nature of reality. The true nature of reality is made of impermanence and changeability and through a progressive practice of introspection, it becomes possible to detect attachment to form, shapes, odors, colors, emotions, and dispel the tendency of becoming acquainted with attachment. Would you try? Would you accept to sit every day even if only for ten minutes and observe the mind's tricking games? Maybe you would hesitate, thinking that it would divert your attention to other more important business matters. However a fantasy world it may appear to be, meditation is a great training tool for the mind to calm down, pace down, reflect on the true nature of reality, impermanence. Thoughts pass like clouds in the sky. Something that was attracting attention, at times maybe obsessively, becomes redundant, disappears, opinion changes, emotions pace down, anxiety settles. Neuroscientific studies bring solid evidence that meditation is not only a mind's training tool, and rather a wellness generator for the brain by stimulating a process called neurogenesis, the production of new neurons. This means that even ten minutes of meditation per day, can, in the medium and long terms generate new neurons, simply by teaching the mind to practice discernment.
The true nature of reality is of changeability, and sitting down with regular punctuality even ten minutes a day, bring vast mind's rewiring effects, that may, in the long run, contribute to maintaining a healthy state of mind.
Don't humans live in their mind? Even a healthy and fit body has a mind which requires the same amount of training and wellness than the physical body.
Would you give it a try?
I have written a book full of resources on how to train the mind. I was burdened by heavy grief and passed the excruciating test of impermanence digging in the mind and body tools most available at hand. https://authorcentral.amazon.com/gp/profile
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10305490
Sunday, 26 July 2020
Saturday, 25 July 2020
What Is the Relationship Between Time and Motivation?
Do you use your time wisely and motivate yourself also? What is the relationship of time with motivation? Do you have an idea? Read on to find out.
The more you motivate yourself, the more you will get done in good time. If you lose your motivation, you will lose time, not being able to focus or concentrate. So it is important for you to motivate yourself all the time.
You should keep inspirational quotes, eBooks and audio around you always so that your motivation level remains high and you are able to get a lot done.
Time doesn't wait. And motivation doesn't last. You could be in the danger of losing good time. What is the remedy?
Get yourself motivated again. Ask yourself why the task at hand is interesting? How could you optimize it? How could it benefit others? What are the steps? Answering these questions gets yourself into the flow and you make good use of time once again.
This way motivation and time go hand in hand. If you are working as a team, it's important that you appreciate their input, how much little that may be so that they feel encouraged to make their contributions zealously and the deadline is met. So you see it becomes more complex. Not only you stay motivated but also your entire team needs motivation so that they work with spirit and enthusiasm, without losing time.
Since motivation doesn't last, it is recommended daily. Daily you need to boost yourself and others for beneficial output in the right amount of time. Share wise quotes, books and audio that you use with others and make them soar. They won't lag behind but rather be inspired to get ahead in their task load.
Once you and your team make it using the motivational tools, it becomes a game of life to win every time. The motivational spirit remains high that way. What more, the higher authorities notice your good contributions and may decide to reward you and your team with raises or even promotions.
That way the motivational spirit lives on and on and you become even better at the game of life with your team and each time you get wiser and more knowledgeable, gaining more expertise, which in turn makes you more in demand. You get more determined to win and hardly fail time. Remember, it all started with an effort to raise your motivation level.
Rosina S Khan has authored this article. For a wealth of free resources based on stunning fiction stories and academic guides, amazing self-help eBooks, articles and blogs, all authored by her, and much more, visit: https://rosinaskhan.weebly.com. You will be glad that you did.
Alternatively, for a different layout of free resources, visit: http://www.facebook.com/RosinaSKhan.hub. You won't be disappointed and remember to like her Facebook page.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10310959
The more you motivate yourself, the more you will get done in good time. If you lose your motivation, you will lose time, not being able to focus or concentrate. So it is important for you to motivate yourself all the time.
You should keep inspirational quotes, eBooks and audio around you always so that your motivation level remains high and you are able to get a lot done.
Time doesn't wait. And motivation doesn't last. You could be in the danger of losing good time. What is the remedy?
Get yourself motivated again. Ask yourself why the task at hand is interesting? How could you optimize it? How could it benefit others? What are the steps? Answering these questions gets yourself into the flow and you make good use of time once again.
This way motivation and time go hand in hand. If you are working as a team, it's important that you appreciate their input, how much little that may be so that they feel encouraged to make their contributions zealously and the deadline is met. So you see it becomes more complex. Not only you stay motivated but also your entire team needs motivation so that they work with spirit and enthusiasm, without losing time.
Since motivation doesn't last, it is recommended daily. Daily you need to boost yourself and others for beneficial output in the right amount of time. Share wise quotes, books and audio that you use with others and make them soar. They won't lag behind but rather be inspired to get ahead in their task load.
Once you and your team make it using the motivational tools, it becomes a game of life to win every time. The motivational spirit remains high that way. What more, the higher authorities notice your good contributions and may decide to reward you and your team with raises or even promotions.
That way the motivational spirit lives on and on and you become even better at the game of life with your team and each time you get wiser and more knowledgeable, gaining more expertise, which in turn makes you more in demand. You get more determined to win and hardly fail time. Remember, it all started with an effort to raise your motivation level.
Rosina S Khan has authored this article. For a wealth of free resources based on stunning fiction stories and academic guides, amazing self-help eBooks, articles and blogs, all authored by her, and much more, visit: https://rosinaskhan.weebly.com. You will be glad that you did.
Alternatively, for a different layout of free resources, visit: http://www.facebook.com/RosinaSKhan.hub. You won't be disappointed and remember to like her Facebook page.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10310959
Friday, 24 July 2020
Thursday, 23 July 2020
Leadership Skills Are Necessary For Success
When trying to find success in any aspect of life, a person will see little progress without becoming a leader and/or developing the skill set which most leaders possess. Self improvement is something which can be continually worked on as a person is striving for success. Some leadership attributes will have to be learned although it is not necessary to become someone in the public eye or in a top position.
What is a leader? A leader works hard and develops skills which are needed in whatever endeavor they are striving to engage. It is important to improve one's self by reading and learning.
Certain attributes which should be embraced on the way to leadership are:
o A willingness to study and learn all you can
o Set goals and review them each day in order to stay on track
o Change your belief and mindset if necessary
o Use mental thought processes to improve your inner being
o Look at what other leaders do and emulate their actions
o Increase your value to the world and be willing to help others
o Care about and love other people
o Be honest and build trust with others
o Have a positive mental attitude
o Consider yourself a leader and act like one
During, before, and after World War II, Americans of Japanese ancestry were treated very poorly. They lost their freedom as those living on the west coast of the United States were incarcerated in camps during the war simply for looking like the enemy. They were totally innocent, but they were treated harshly because of racism.
It was not easy to have a positive attitude when life was so hard, but they had to try to maintain faith for the future. They faced unimaginable difficulties, but they persevered. They worked hard, and many eventually became leaders in many fields. They kept hope and did not give up.
One of the main things to do to become a leader is to educate yourself. There is so much information from which a person can learn. The internet is full of valuable information, and there are so many books available to help. People are often willing to help each other.
If you ever sign up for free information, you will begin to receive emails every day. That can get annoying as hundreds of useless emails a day could flood your inbox. It is necessary to pick and choose what you want. There is a lot of useless garbage from people who just want your money by trying to sell you something.
If you want to be a leader, believe in yourself and don't give us. It takes hard work and dedication. Success could be just around the corner.
A free eBook is available by checking out the website Many in the general public know very little about this part of American history. The book covers civil rights issues, racism, and success. It is available on Amazon. http://www.thejapaneseamericanstory.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10311253
What is a leader? A leader works hard and develops skills which are needed in whatever endeavor they are striving to engage. It is important to improve one's self by reading and learning.
Certain attributes which should be embraced on the way to leadership are:
o A willingness to study and learn all you can
o Set goals and review them each day in order to stay on track
o Change your belief and mindset if necessary
o Use mental thought processes to improve your inner being
o Look at what other leaders do and emulate their actions
o Increase your value to the world and be willing to help others
o Care about and love other people
o Be honest and build trust with others
o Have a positive mental attitude
o Consider yourself a leader and act like one
During, before, and after World War II, Americans of Japanese ancestry were treated very poorly. They lost their freedom as those living on the west coast of the United States were incarcerated in camps during the war simply for looking like the enemy. They were totally innocent, but they were treated harshly because of racism.
It was not easy to have a positive attitude when life was so hard, but they had to try to maintain faith for the future. They faced unimaginable difficulties, but they persevered. They worked hard, and many eventually became leaders in many fields. They kept hope and did not give up.
One of the main things to do to become a leader is to educate yourself. There is so much information from which a person can learn. The internet is full of valuable information, and there are so many books available to help. People are often willing to help each other.
If you ever sign up for free information, you will begin to receive emails every day. That can get annoying as hundreds of useless emails a day could flood your inbox. It is necessary to pick and choose what you want. There is a lot of useless garbage from people who just want your money by trying to sell you something.
If you want to be a leader, believe in yourself and don't give us. It takes hard work and dedication. Success could be just around the corner.
A free eBook is available by checking out the website Many in the general public know very little about this part of American history. The book covers civil rights issues, racism, and success. It is available on Amazon. http://www.thejapaneseamericanstory.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10311253
Wednesday, 22 July 2020
Tuesday, 21 July 2020
How to Use Your Persuasion or Setback Skills to Get What You Want
Are you struggling every day to get what you want? This article shows you some persuasion/setback skills to achieve exactly that.
Here they are:
Start your conversation by genuinely praising others. Then get to your point. You will most likely have your needs met.
Avoid arguments. If you see a person not liking your approach, try to understand the other person's point of view and turn around your speech. The person is most likely to respond positively to your request.
Be cool. Don't get enraged because the other person said something that you didn't like. Deal with it tactfully and win whatever you have in mind.
Life can get messy if you start to think negatively. Change your thoughts gradually to positive ones. One right fix in your thoughts can lead to further positive thoughts that will lead you to a positive action, which will, in turn, take you one step closer to your targeted goal.
Never give up. Giving up is the easy way out. Keep hanging on and keep trying. After many hard trials, you will become stronger, stand tall on your feet and eventually make it.
What if you are bombarded with many challenges at the same time? Ending your life is again the easy way out. To contribute to society - to make a difference that you lived at all, you need to have a straight head, confront one challenge at a time, overcome them, and achieve your desired goal(s).
Get the other person respond positively to a row of questions. When he has done so, get to more difficult questions, and he will automatically respond positively. And yes, you can make him agree to your proposal, and getting it approved by him makes you earn your goal in positive terms.
When improving the conduct of your team members, use constructive criticism. For instance, you can start with a compliment but follow it by pointing out her blunder. That way she will take your criticism comfortably and also correct her blunder, contributing efficient output to the team and in turn, the entire company.
Treat every challenge you meet in the journey of life as an exciting opportunity to learn. Instead of being bogged down easily, make it a game of life to win every challenge, and you are on a sure way to success.
Summing up these are some of the ways you can influence others or meet setbacks skillfully to get what you want ultimately. They are all worthy, and it is up to you to choose two or more of them and apply them to daily life.
Rosina S Khan has authored this article. For a wealth of free resources based on stunning fiction stories and academic guides, amazing self-help eBooks, articles and blogs, all authored by her, and much more, visit: https://rosinaskhan.weebly.com. You will be glad that you did.
Alternatively, for a different layout of free resources, visit: http://www.facebook.com/RosinaSKhan.hub. You won't be disappointed and remember to like her Facebook page.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10314226
Here they are:
Start your conversation by genuinely praising others. Then get to your point. You will most likely have your needs met.
Avoid arguments. If you see a person not liking your approach, try to understand the other person's point of view and turn around your speech. The person is most likely to respond positively to your request.
Be cool. Don't get enraged because the other person said something that you didn't like. Deal with it tactfully and win whatever you have in mind.
Life can get messy if you start to think negatively. Change your thoughts gradually to positive ones. One right fix in your thoughts can lead to further positive thoughts that will lead you to a positive action, which will, in turn, take you one step closer to your targeted goal.
Never give up. Giving up is the easy way out. Keep hanging on and keep trying. After many hard trials, you will become stronger, stand tall on your feet and eventually make it.
What if you are bombarded with many challenges at the same time? Ending your life is again the easy way out. To contribute to society - to make a difference that you lived at all, you need to have a straight head, confront one challenge at a time, overcome them, and achieve your desired goal(s).
Get the other person respond positively to a row of questions. When he has done so, get to more difficult questions, and he will automatically respond positively. And yes, you can make him agree to your proposal, and getting it approved by him makes you earn your goal in positive terms.
When improving the conduct of your team members, use constructive criticism. For instance, you can start with a compliment but follow it by pointing out her blunder. That way she will take your criticism comfortably and also correct her blunder, contributing efficient output to the team and in turn, the entire company.
Treat every challenge you meet in the journey of life as an exciting opportunity to learn. Instead of being bogged down easily, make it a game of life to win every challenge, and you are on a sure way to success.
Summing up these are some of the ways you can influence others or meet setbacks skillfully to get what you want ultimately. They are all worthy, and it is up to you to choose two or more of them and apply them to daily life.
Rosina S Khan has authored this article. For a wealth of free resources based on stunning fiction stories and academic guides, amazing self-help eBooks, articles and blogs, all authored by her, and much more, visit: https://rosinaskhan.weebly.com. You will be glad that you did.
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Monday, 20 July 2020
Sunday, 19 July 2020
But What If
Over the past few weeks, the world has been experiencing a pandemic which has stolen almost everything that we previously called "Normal". No one seems to understand the virus and we are certainly getting very mixed messages from sources that previously we would trust and respect without question.
Articles that I wrote in the past addressed depression and anxiety. You see, there has likely been degrees of depression and anxiety throughout recorded history - and perhaps even before that.
Those who experience depression are often "stuck" in the past. They focus on the things that happened which are over with and cannot be altered. They are gone!
Anxiety, on the other hand, is usually about the future and can be quickly spotted when a person starts a sentence with the words "But what if... ".
Unfortunately, anxiety and depression can be distractors - like static on a radio station. They draw attention from the present, replace it with agitation. This interferes with our ability to feel calm and function well.
Do you remember the children's story about Chicken Little who had an acorn fall on his head? He incorrectly assumed the worst and decided to ignore everything the day held in order to go to tell the king that the sky was falling. His anxiety not only ruined his day but also the individuals who he met along the way. Goosy Loosie, Ducky Lucky and Turkey Lurky bought into his irrational fear and neglected their own priorities in order to accompany Chicken Little.
Uncertainty and false assumptions can also ruin your day if you let them. As soon as you find yourself saying "But what if... " consider the following:
On a piece of paper write down the absolute worse thing that could happen.
Determine whether this is a guarantee or just an unrealistic thought.
Adopt the attitude portrayed in the old adage "Hope for the best but prepare for the worst".
Consider the obstacles that you and your family have overcome in the past which have built strength in your life.
Consult with individuals who can help you learn healthy strategies.
Take inventory and give thanks for the things that you have right now.
Feed your mind, your soul and your time with peaceful friends and surroundings.
Focus on and enjoy today (tomorrow is over and tomorrow hasn't arrived yet).
Control the things that you can control - like getting enough rest, eating regularly, reaching out to others
Now turn the paper over and write down the absolute best things that could happen.
What if you found a new job that you like better than what you have been doing? What if you use your time alone to revive a hobby from long ago? What if you improve your physical and mental health by making better choices?
Chicken Little made an assumption and panicked irrationally. But his cohorts were also in trouble because they believed Chicken Little and latched onto his fear and impulsivity without any empirically based evidence. All of them lost out on the beauty of the day. You don't have to be like them.
And now I would like to invite you to claim your Free Instant Access to a complimentary list of 10 Steps to Making Your Life an Adventure when you visit http://lindahancock.com
From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10317553
Articles that I wrote in the past addressed depression and anxiety. You see, there has likely been degrees of depression and anxiety throughout recorded history - and perhaps even before that.
Those who experience depression are often "stuck" in the past. They focus on the things that happened which are over with and cannot be altered. They are gone!
Anxiety, on the other hand, is usually about the future and can be quickly spotted when a person starts a sentence with the words "But what if... ".
Unfortunately, anxiety and depression can be distractors - like static on a radio station. They draw attention from the present, replace it with agitation. This interferes with our ability to feel calm and function well.
Do you remember the children's story about Chicken Little who had an acorn fall on his head? He incorrectly assumed the worst and decided to ignore everything the day held in order to go to tell the king that the sky was falling. His anxiety not only ruined his day but also the individuals who he met along the way. Goosy Loosie, Ducky Lucky and Turkey Lurky bought into his irrational fear and neglected their own priorities in order to accompany Chicken Little.
Uncertainty and false assumptions can also ruin your day if you let them. As soon as you find yourself saying "But what if... " consider the following:
On a piece of paper write down the absolute worse thing that could happen.
Determine whether this is a guarantee or just an unrealistic thought.
Adopt the attitude portrayed in the old adage "Hope for the best but prepare for the worst".
Consider the obstacles that you and your family have overcome in the past which have built strength in your life.
Consult with individuals who can help you learn healthy strategies.
Take inventory and give thanks for the things that you have right now.
Feed your mind, your soul and your time with peaceful friends and surroundings.
Focus on and enjoy today (tomorrow is over and tomorrow hasn't arrived yet).
Control the things that you can control - like getting enough rest, eating regularly, reaching out to others
Now turn the paper over and write down the absolute best things that could happen.
What if you found a new job that you like better than what you have been doing? What if you use your time alone to revive a hobby from long ago? What if you improve your physical and mental health by making better choices?
Chicken Little made an assumption and panicked irrationally. But his cohorts were also in trouble because they believed Chicken Little and latched onto his fear and impulsivity without any empirically based evidence. All of them lost out on the beauty of the day. You don't have to be like them.
And now I would like to invite you to claim your Free Instant Access to a complimentary list of 10 Steps to Making Your Life an Adventure when you visit http://lindahancock.com
From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10317553
Saturday, 18 July 2020
Friday, 17 July 2020
Nihilism: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Nihilistic?
If one was to think about what someone would be like if they are nihilistic, the main thing that could come to mind is that this person will believe that life has no meaning and nothing matters. They are then not going to be full of life and they might be happy to destroy things.
Through being this way, there are likely to be certain feelings that they will typically experience. They could have the tendency to feel down, frustrated, helpless, angry and enraged.
Two Experiences
Their feelings are then going to cause them to be in a very low place and take away their desire to do anything or they will elevate them slightly and potentially give them the urge to do something. If they do give them the urge to do something, it is unlikely that they will do anything creative.
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Due to how they see life, they will be no point in them creating anything; what is likely to be far more appealing is to do the complete opposite. Not only will there be no point in them creating anything but will be seen as a complete waste of energy.
Cut-Off
If they are not experiencing life from one of these two places, it could mean that they will have completely lost touch with how they feel. The best way to describe them would then be to say that they are totally apathetic.
Through being this way, what is going on around them won't bother them and they won't have the desire to do anything. One will then be physically alive but they will be devoid of life.
One Dimensional
Regardless of what inner place they are in, their life is not going to be full of colour and it will generally be as though there is only one season. When it comes to how they see the world, it could be very similar to watching an old black and white film.
There will only be black, white and grey, and the sound won't be all that great. Further, it might not matter if the sun is shining or the rain is pouring as what is going on might not have much of an impact on their mood.
Daily Life
When it comes to what they do each day, there is the chance that they will have a job they would rather not have. This is then likely to be something that they do for the money, not for any other reason.
If they consume a lot of entertainment, they could typically watch films about revenge or where society crumbles, for instance. Watching these types of films will allow them to vicariously fulfil certain needs.
A Legitimate Outlook
When it comes to the view that life has no meaning, this is a view that will easily be backed up by the mind. This part of someone could say that they were born for no reason, there is no reason for them to be here and their life will come to an end at some point.
To add to this, they could talk about how meaningless the modern-day world is, with it being purely about working and consuming what the corporations create. So why would anyone bother? And if they do exert any energy, wouldn't destroying the rotten system be the best option?
A Different Part
However, although the mind can come up with all the reasons why life has no meaning, and that the current system should be destroyed, the heart can come up with reasons why it has meaning. This part of them - the part can be seen as an expression of their emotional self - is where love, connection and joy are found.
Unlike the mind, this part of them is not concerned as to whether life has meaning or not; it simply wants to give and to share and to embrace life. When someone was a child, they would have just wanted to express themselves and to embrace life; they would have been in the now and wouldn't have been concerned about whether or not life had meaning.
A Deeper Look
The mind is then the part of someone that allows them to think about life, whereas their emotional self is the part that allows them to experience life. Without the mind, one would be completely consumed by life; without an emotional self, they wouldn't be able to truly embrace life.
Based on this, if someone believes that life has no meaning, it could show that they don't have a good connection to their emotional self or that this part of them is not in a good way. If ever they are in touch with this part of them, it probably won't give them much emotional support or supply them many positive feelings.
Back In Time
When someone in this position, it may illustrate is that their early years were anything but nurturing. Perhaps this was a time when they were abused and/or neglected on a regular basis, which would have meant that they experienced a lot of trauma.
To protect themselves, they would have ended up disconnecting from their emotional self and ended up living on the surface of themselves in the process. These early experiences will also have had an impact on how they view themselves and the world.
A Miserable Existence
How they experience life as an adult will have a lot in common with how they experienced life as a child. During their early years, their life would have been painful, bleak and there would have been very little pleasure, and it will more or less be the same now.
As a result of what they experienced, they can carry a lot of rage, and destroying things can be a way for them to release some of this rage. What they destroy can, at an unconscious level, remind them of the person/people who harmed them.
Awareness
For their emotional self to support them and to provide them with a sense of meaning and motivation, it will be necessary for them to heal their inner wounds. Undertaking this work will allow them to become a more integrated human being.
The outcome of this is that their emotional self will give them the warmth and pleasure that their mind simply can't provide. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
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Through being this way, there are likely to be certain feelings that they will typically experience. They could have the tendency to feel down, frustrated, helpless, angry and enraged.
Two Experiences
Their feelings are then going to cause them to be in a very low place and take away their desire to do anything or they will elevate them slightly and potentially give them the urge to do something. If they do give them the urge to do something, it is unlikely that they will do anything creative.
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Due to how they see life, they will be no point in them creating anything; what is likely to be far more appealing is to do the complete opposite. Not only will there be no point in them creating anything but will be seen as a complete waste of energy.
Cut-Off
If they are not experiencing life from one of these two places, it could mean that they will have completely lost touch with how they feel. The best way to describe them would then be to say that they are totally apathetic.
Through being this way, what is going on around them won't bother them and they won't have the desire to do anything. One will then be physically alive but they will be devoid of life.
One Dimensional
Regardless of what inner place they are in, their life is not going to be full of colour and it will generally be as though there is only one season. When it comes to how they see the world, it could be very similar to watching an old black and white film.
There will only be black, white and grey, and the sound won't be all that great. Further, it might not matter if the sun is shining or the rain is pouring as what is going on might not have much of an impact on their mood.
Daily Life
When it comes to what they do each day, there is the chance that they will have a job they would rather not have. This is then likely to be something that they do for the money, not for any other reason.
If they consume a lot of entertainment, they could typically watch films about revenge or where society crumbles, for instance. Watching these types of films will allow them to vicariously fulfil certain needs.
A Legitimate Outlook
When it comes to the view that life has no meaning, this is a view that will easily be backed up by the mind. This part of someone could say that they were born for no reason, there is no reason for them to be here and their life will come to an end at some point.
To add to this, they could talk about how meaningless the modern-day world is, with it being purely about working and consuming what the corporations create. So why would anyone bother? And if they do exert any energy, wouldn't destroying the rotten system be the best option?
A Different Part
However, although the mind can come up with all the reasons why life has no meaning, and that the current system should be destroyed, the heart can come up with reasons why it has meaning. This part of them - the part can be seen as an expression of their emotional self - is where love, connection and joy are found.
Unlike the mind, this part of them is not concerned as to whether life has meaning or not; it simply wants to give and to share and to embrace life. When someone was a child, they would have just wanted to express themselves and to embrace life; they would have been in the now and wouldn't have been concerned about whether or not life had meaning.
A Deeper Look
The mind is then the part of someone that allows them to think about life, whereas their emotional self is the part that allows them to experience life. Without the mind, one would be completely consumed by life; without an emotional self, they wouldn't be able to truly embrace life.
Based on this, if someone believes that life has no meaning, it could show that they don't have a good connection to their emotional self or that this part of them is not in a good way. If ever they are in touch with this part of them, it probably won't give them much emotional support or supply them many positive feelings.
Back In Time
When someone in this position, it may illustrate is that their early years were anything but nurturing. Perhaps this was a time when they were abused and/or neglected on a regular basis, which would have meant that they experienced a lot of trauma.
To protect themselves, they would have ended up disconnecting from their emotional self and ended up living on the surface of themselves in the process. These early experiences will also have had an impact on how they view themselves and the world.
A Miserable Existence
How they experience life as an adult will have a lot in common with how they experienced life as a child. During their early years, their life would have been painful, bleak and there would have been very little pleasure, and it will more or less be the same now.
As a result of what they experienced, they can carry a lot of rage, and destroying things can be a way for them to release some of this rage. What they destroy can, at an unconscious level, remind them of the person/people who harmed them.
Awareness
For their emotional self to support them and to provide them with a sense of meaning and motivation, it will be necessary for them to heal their inner wounds. Undertaking this work will allow them to become a more integrated human being.
The outcome of this is that their emotional self will give them the warmth and pleasure that their mind simply can't provide. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
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Thursday, 16 July 2020
Wednesday, 15 July 2020
Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Those Who Are Against Hate Are Often Full Of Hate?
There are a number of feelings that can cause someone to engage in behaviour that is destructive. Rage is one of those feelings as is hate, with these being feelings that can be completely overpowering.
Therefore, due to what can take place when someone is experiencing one of these feelings, it can stop them from being able to think clearly. As a result of this, they can end up causing harm to someone or something.
Another Outcome
Conversely, they could end up experiencing one of these feelings and, instead of directing the energy that is within them outwards, they could push it down inside their own body. Now, this is likely to mean that they won't harm another, but it could cause them to harm themselves.
This could mean that they will end up feeling down and depressed, and they may even end up with stomach problems. The weeks and months could then pass by and, out of nowhere, they could do something that is completely out of character.
In The Middle
Therefore, giving a feeling like this carte blanche is not the answer and neither is denying that it even exists. The ideal will be for one to contain this feeling and to look into what they need to do to deal with it.
Here, one won't be controlled by it and they won't try to control it either, giving them the ability to resolve what is going on. What they may find is that this is a feeling that has been triggered from their past, meaning that they will need to heal an old wound and/or it may mean that they will need to say something to another person and to assert their boundaries.
A Role Model
Through taking responsibility for how they feel, they will be serving the world and they will be serving themselves. This is because they won't be adding more drama to the world and they won't be undermining their own being.
Thanks to how they deal with their feelings, they will serve as a positive example to others. If they didn't behave in this way, and they had the inclination to be controlled by their feelings or to deny their feelings altogether, they would be showing others an unhealthy way of dealing with feelings.
One Priority
So, if someone has a healthy relationship with their own emotions and is emotionally intelligent, they might end up trying to educate others on how to experience life in the same way. For example, they could be drawn to those that carry a lot of hate and try to encourage them to let go of how they are feeling.
This will then come from a place of understanding and a genuine desire to serve, as opposed to the need to shame and blame those that are in this position. In other words, they will generally embody a level of consciousness that will allow them to assist their fellow human beings.
A Different Energy
Someone like this is then going to be radically different to the individual who is hell-bent on removing hate, but who comes across as incredibly hateful themselves. They will say one thing, yet their behaviour will say something else entirely.
It will be as though they are so focused on what is going on for others that they are unable to see what is going on for themselves. Consequently, an outside observer will be able to see that they are carrying a lot of hate but they themselves will be oblivious to this fact.
Their Shadow
At this time, it won't be possible for them to acknowledge what is taking place inside them. Owing to this, what they are unable to face inside them will end up being projected into others.
As what is taking place inside them will be placed into others, it will allow them to maintain the delusion they are not hateful; it is the people 'out there' who are. Trying to change others will be an indirect way for them to change themselves.
A Flawed Approach
However, as they are carrying a lot of hate inside themselves that they are unable to acknowledge, trying to change others won't have much of an effect. Ultimately, unless they deal with their own baggage, they will continue to project their hate onto others and have a strong need to be around people who are hateful.
They won't be able to see it, but they will have a level of consciousness that is very similar to the level that these people have, hence why they are judging them and are trying to change them. If they took a step back and no longer focused on the people who are like this, they may have to come face to face with the part of themselves that they have been running away from.
No More Running
What they may find is that they don't feel comfortable their own hate and that this hate also allows them to avoid their own toxic shame. They may feel deeply powerless and helpless too.
The pain that is inside them may be the result of what has taken palace in their adult life and/ or it may go back to what took place during their early years. Perhaps their early years were a time when they were often mistreated.
Conclusion
If their pain does relate to what someone did to them when they were a child, and they deal with this pain, they will no longer need to take this pain out on others. This will allow them to be the change they want to see in the world and to no longer feed into the drama of the world.
Adding more love to the world is, of course, one of the ways that the world will change, not by adding more hate. And as what is resisted is what will persist and grow, being for love, not being against hate, is undoubtedly the best way to be.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
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Therefore, due to what can take place when someone is experiencing one of these feelings, it can stop them from being able to think clearly. As a result of this, they can end up causing harm to someone or something.
Another Outcome
Conversely, they could end up experiencing one of these feelings and, instead of directing the energy that is within them outwards, they could push it down inside their own body. Now, this is likely to mean that they won't harm another, but it could cause them to harm themselves.
This could mean that they will end up feeling down and depressed, and they may even end up with stomach problems. The weeks and months could then pass by and, out of nowhere, they could do something that is completely out of character.
In The Middle
Therefore, giving a feeling like this carte blanche is not the answer and neither is denying that it even exists. The ideal will be for one to contain this feeling and to look into what they need to do to deal with it.
Here, one won't be controlled by it and they won't try to control it either, giving them the ability to resolve what is going on. What they may find is that this is a feeling that has been triggered from their past, meaning that they will need to heal an old wound and/or it may mean that they will need to say something to another person and to assert their boundaries.
A Role Model
Through taking responsibility for how they feel, they will be serving the world and they will be serving themselves. This is because they won't be adding more drama to the world and they won't be undermining their own being.
Thanks to how they deal with their feelings, they will serve as a positive example to others. If they didn't behave in this way, and they had the inclination to be controlled by their feelings or to deny their feelings altogether, they would be showing others an unhealthy way of dealing with feelings.
One Priority
So, if someone has a healthy relationship with their own emotions and is emotionally intelligent, they might end up trying to educate others on how to experience life in the same way. For example, they could be drawn to those that carry a lot of hate and try to encourage them to let go of how they are feeling.
This will then come from a place of understanding and a genuine desire to serve, as opposed to the need to shame and blame those that are in this position. In other words, they will generally embody a level of consciousness that will allow them to assist their fellow human beings.
A Different Energy
Someone like this is then going to be radically different to the individual who is hell-bent on removing hate, but who comes across as incredibly hateful themselves. They will say one thing, yet their behaviour will say something else entirely.
It will be as though they are so focused on what is going on for others that they are unable to see what is going on for themselves. Consequently, an outside observer will be able to see that they are carrying a lot of hate but they themselves will be oblivious to this fact.
Their Shadow
At this time, it won't be possible for them to acknowledge what is taking place inside them. Owing to this, what they are unable to face inside them will end up being projected into others.
As what is taking place inside them will be placed into others, it will allow them to maintain the delusion they are not hateful; it is the people 'out there' who are. Trying to change others will be an indirect way for them to change themselves.
A Flawed Approach
However, as they are carrying a lot of hate inside themselves that they are unable to acknowledge, trying to change others won't have much of an effect. Ultimately, unless they deal with their own baggage, they will continue to project their hate onto others and have a strong need to be around people who are hateful.
They won't be able to see it, but they will have a level of consciousness that is very similar to the level that these people have, hence why they are judging them and are trying to change them. If they took a step back and no longer focused on the people who are like this, they may have to come face to face with the part of themselves that they have been running away from.
No More Running
What they may find is that they don't feel comfortable their own hate and that this hate also allows them to avoid their own toxic shame. They may feel deeply powerless and helpless too.
The pain that is inside them may be the result of what has taken palace in their adult life and/ or it may go back to what took place during their early years. Perhaps their early years were a time when they were often mistreated.
Conclusion
If their pain does relate to what someone did to them when they were a child, and they deal with this pain, they will no longer need to take this pain out on others. This will allow them to be the change they want to see in the world and to no longer feed into the drama of the world.
Adding more love to the world is, of course, one of the ways that the world will change, not by adding more hate. And as what is resisted is what will persist and grow, being for love, not being against hate, is undoubtedly the best way to be.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
https://www.facebook.com/OliverJRCooper
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10318330
Tuesday, 14 July 2020
Monday, 13 July 2020
Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process?
When someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self.
This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two births in order to truly be born. The first is, of course, the physical birth, and the second is the emotional birth.
Two Key Parts
Unlike when a rabbit or a mouse is born, for instance, they will be in a highly undeveloped state. They are then not just going to need the contact of their mother and feeding for a little while, they will need years and years of the right care.
'Good enough' care will do and this will be a time when they will need their mother's presence, attunement, touch and love, along with the fulfilment of their basic needs. Receiving this care will allow them to gradually develop a sense of self.
The Next Step
After they have been in their mother's world for a number of years, their father will start to play an important role. In a way, it will have been as though they were in a room and their father is then there to take them out of this room.
Their self of self will have been developing thanks to their mothers care and responses, and their fathers presence will enable them to fully separate from their mother. He will take them away from the unconditional world and out into the conditional world.
A Very Different Experience
In their mother's world, they would have been loved unconditionally and seen as special; whereas in their father's world, they won't be loved conditionally and they might rarely be seen as being special. One world could be seen as soft, while the other can be seen as hard.
To handle the other world, their father will provide them with support and guidance and help them to develop self-belief, courage competence and resilience. The mother will then have taken care of their feminine aspect, and will continue to do so, and their father will take care of their masculine aspect.
Other Elements
At this stage, it might have become clear that this is a very black and white view of childhood development. Undoubtedly, it is not always like this but what the above does is provide a rough outline of what takes place.
Anyway, one important inner drive that will play a part in one being able to develop into an individual will be their fight/aggression instinct. In addition to the guidance that is being provided externally, this drive will give them the need to become their own person.
A Sovereign Being
The years will go by and there will come a point in time when they will not only have separated emotionally from their parents, but they will have also separated mentally form them. This will allow them to live their own life and to come to their own conclusion and to form their own views.
Through being secure and comfortable in their own skin, they will be able to stand with others and they will be able to stand by themselves. Still, this doesn't mean that they will have completely separated from their parents.
Dealing with the Remnants
For the rest of their life, they will probably need to let go of expectations, fears and beliefs that were passed onto them from their parents and other family members. Further, there will be the expectations, fears and beliefs that they have picked up from society that will need to be rooted out.
And no matter how loving and supportive their parents were, they can still have parts of themselves that ended up being disowned and need to be reintegrated. Moreover, what can also need to be reintegrated are any parts of themselves that they had to disconnect from as a result of trauma or a stressful circumstance.
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Inner Harmony
However, although this is a lifelong process, it is likely to be very rewarding and what enables them to have an even richer experience on this earth. This is because one will become more together internally, becoming more whole and this will mean that their life will be more in alignment with who they are.
This is not how it will be for everyone on this earth, though, as some peoples early years won't have been a time when they received 'good enough' care. They will then have had a physical birth but they won't have had an emotional birth.
A Very Different Reality
From the outside, they will look like a separate human being but that could be about as far as it will go. Their sense of self will be in an undeveloped state, with them seeing themselves as an extension of others and they might not have their own mind either.
One can then go along to get along and they can accept whatever they are told and believe whatever the people around them believe. Asserting themselves and forming their own conclusions will then be seen as something that would put their very survival at risk, as they are in a boundaryless state and lack a strong sense of themselves.
Stunted
The part of them that would allow then to slowly individuate, their fight instinct, may have been covered up. They are then not going to have the desire or to feel safe enough to become their own person.
At their current level of development, living their own life and thinking for themselves won't be of any interest. For this to change, they will need to go through the other developmental stages.
Awareness
If someone can relate to this, and they are ready to start this process, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or healer.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
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This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two births in order to truly be born. The first is, of course, the physical birth, and the second is the emotional birth.
Two Key Parts
Unlike when a rabbit or a mouse is born, for instance, they will be in a highly undeveloped state. They are then not just going to need the contact of their mother and feeding for a little while, they will need years and years of the right care.
'Good enough' care will do and this will be a time when they will need their mother's presence, attunement, touch and love, along with the fulfilment of their basic needs. Receiving this care will allow them to gradually develop a sense of self.
The Next Step
After they have been in their mother's world for a number of years, their father will start to play an important role. In a way, it will have been as though they were in a room and their father is then there to take them out of this room.
Their self of self will have been developing thanks to their mothers care and responses, and their fathers presence will enable them to fully separate from their mother. He will take them away from the unconditional world and out into the conditional world.
A Very Different Experience
In their mother's world, they would have been loved unconditionally and seen as special; whereas in their father's world, they won't be loved conditionally and they might rarely be seen as being special. One world could be seen as soft, while the other can be seen as hard.
To handle the other world, their father will provide them with support and guidance and help them to develop self-belief, courage competence and resilience. The mother will then have taken care of their feminine aspect, and will continue to do so, and their father will take care of their masculine aspect.
Other Elements
At this stage, it might have become clear that this is a very black and white view of childhood development. Undoubtedly, it is not always like this but what the above does is provide a rough outline of what takes place.
Anyway, one important inner drive that will play a part in one being able to develop into an individual will be their fight/aggression instinct. In addition to the guidance that is being provided externally, this drive will give them the need to become their own person.
A Sovereign Being
The years will go by and there will come a point in time when they will not only have separated emotionally from their parents, but they will have also separated mentally form them. This will allow them to live their own life and to come to their own conclusion and to form their own views.
Through being secure and comfortable in their own skin, they will be able to stand with others and they will be able to stand by themselves. Still, this doesn't mean that they will have completely separated from their parents.
Dealing with the Remnants
For the rest of their life, they will probably need to let go of expectations, fears and beliefs that were passed onto them from their parents and other family members. Further, there will be the expectations, fears and beliefs that they have picked up from society that will need to be rooted out.
And no matter how loving and supportive their parents were, they can still have parts of themselves that ended up being disowned and need to be reintegrated. Moreover, what can also need to be reintegrated are any parts of themselves that they had to disconnect from as a result of trauma or a stressful circumstance.
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Inner Harmony
However, although this is a lifelong process, it is likely to be very rewarding and what enables them to have an even richer experience on this earth. This is because one will become more together internally, becoming more whole and this will mean that their life will be more in alignment with who they are.
This is not how it will be for everyone on this earth, though, as some peoples early years won't have been a time when they received 'good enough' care. They will then have had a physical birth but they won't have had an emotional birth.
A Very Different Reality
From the outside, they will look like a separate human being but that could be about as far as it will go. Their sense of self will be in an undeveloped state, with them seeing themselves as an extension of others and they might not have their own mind either.
One can then go along to get along and they can accept whatever they are told and believe whatever the people around them believe. Asserting themselves and forming their own conclusions will then be seen as something that would put their very survival at risk, as they are in a boundaryless state and lack a strong sense of themselves.
Stunted
The part of them that would allow then to slowly individuate, their fight instinct, may have been covered up. They are then not going to have the desire or to feel safe enough to become their own person.
At their current level of development, living their own life and thinking for themselves won't be of any interest. For this to change, they will need to go through the other developmental stages.
Awareness
If someone can relate to this, and they are ready to start this process, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or healer.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
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Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10318828
Sunday, 12 July 2020
Saturday, 11 July 2020
Developing Self-Belief Doesn't Happen Overnight
If someone is in a position where they lack self-belief, they may look into what they can do to develop it. Then again, they could merely put up with what is taking place and do their best to carry on as normal.
The reason for this is that they may believe that there is nothing that they can do about what is going on. Through having this outlook, they are not going to be able to transform their life.
Reaching Out
If someone does look into what they can do to develop self-belief, there is the chance that they will want to develop it as soon as possible. This could show that they have been this way for a very long time and are not willing to put up with how they experience life for any longer.
Alternatively, it could show that they find it hard to be patient, having a strong need to experience instant gratification. As a result of this, if they come across a book or a course that promises to change their life in a very short period of time, they might not hesitate to invest in it.
One Direction
After taking this step, they may find that their self-doubt starts to disappear and their self-belief rapidly increases. One could then find that as soon as they get an idea, it isn't long until they take the first step.
Not only will they see themselves as being capable of achieving something but they will know that they will be able to handle any setbacks that arise. Quite simply, being this way will allow them to be their own best friend as opposed to their own worst enemy.
Another Experience
If one was to take this route, they may find that they don't go from having very little self-belief to being full of self-belief in a short period of time. They may find that this is something that takes time.
This could be the case if they try something that promises to transform their life overnight or if they try another approach altogether. It will then be important for them to patient and persistent.
Being Realistic
Having a balanced outlook will make it easier for them to take the steps that they need to take to move forward and to not expect too much too soon. There can be moments when they are full of self-belief and moments when they struggle to find the strength within them, but they won't give up on themselves.
What they could also do to stay on the right track and to build up their self-belief is to find someone who believes in them. The support that is provided by someone like this will gradually be internalised, allowing one to develop self-belief even faster than they would otherwise.
Final Thoughts
What this illustrates is how important external support is when it comes to making progress in life. If one tries to do everything by themselves, their life is going to be far harder than it needs to be.
Reaching out for support is the sensible thing to do; it is not a sign that one is weak or incapable. Further, realising that self-belief is something that takes time to develop and is not something that is developed in a weekend or a week will save one from suffering unnecessarily.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
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Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10319026
The reason for this is that they may believe that there is nothing that they can do about what is going on. Through having this outlook, they are not going to be able to transform their life.
Reaching Out
If someone does look into what they can do to develop self-belief, there is the chance that they will want to develop it as soon as possible. This could show that they have been this way for a very long time and are not willing to put up with how they experience life for any longer.
Alternatively, it could show that they find it hard to be patient, having a strong need to experience instant gratification. As a result of this, if they come across a book or a course that promises to change their life in a very short period of time, they might not hesitate to invest in it.
One Direction
After taking this step, they may find that their self-doubt starts to disappear and their self-belief rapidly increases. One could then find that as soon as they get an idea, it isn't long until they take the first step.
Not only will they see themselves as being capable of achieving something but they will know that they will be able to handle any setbacks that arise. Quite simply, being this way will allow them to be their own best friend as opposed to their own worst enemy.
Another Experience
If one was to take this route, they may find that they don't go from having very little self-belief to being full of self-belief in a short period of time. They may find that this is something that takes time.
This could be the case if they try something that promises to transform their life overnight or if they try another approach altogether. It will then be important for them to patient and persistent.
Being Realistic
Having a balanced outlook will make it easier for them to take the steps that they need to take to move forward and to not expect too much too soon. There can be moments when they are full of self-belief and moments when they struggle to find the strength within them, but they won't give up on themselves.
What they could also do to stay on the right track and to build up their self-belief is to find someone who believes in them. The support that is provided by someone like this will gradually be internalised, allowing one to develop self-belief even faster than they would otherwise.
Final Thoughts
What this illustrates is how important external support is when it comes to making progress in life. If one tries to do everything by themselves, their life is going to be far harder than it needs to be.
Reaching out for support is the sensible thing to do; it is not a sign that one is weak or incapable. Further, realising that self-belief is something that takes time to develop and is not something that is developed in a weekend or a week will save one from suffering unnecessarily.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
https://www.facebook.com/OliverJRCooper
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10319026
Friday, 10 July 2020
Thursday, 9 July 2020
Why Do We Behave In Ways That Harm Us?
What you may find is that you often behave in ways that don't benefit you and even harm you. Further, you may find that you there are people in your life who behave in the same way, holding themselves back in the process.
After you have behaved in a way that doesn't benefit you, you may wonder what was going on. The reason you may wonder what was going on is that you are unlikely to always be aware of the behaviours that are holding you back.
Confusion
Until you become aware of a certain limiting behaviour, how you behave will just be what is normal. And as it is normal, it will be a behaviour that is just outside of your conscious awareness.
Once you have become aware of a limiting behaviour, then, it could seem as though someone or something else is in control of you. What could make this worse is that even after you become aware of a destructive behaviour, you may find that you continue to behave in the same way.
For Example
Just about every area of your life can be impacted by your inability to behave in ways that benefit you. Perhaps your relationships are not very fulfilling or you might find it hard to form close bonds with others.
Or, you might find that you are unable to get very far in your career or you might stop yourself from even having a career. Without the understanding that you are holding yourself back, you would likely believe that you are a powerless victim who is nothing more than an observer of life.
The First Step
Fortunately, you will be in a position where you are able to see that this is not the case and that it is you, not anyone else, who is holding you back. Of course, this is not something that you are consciously doing; it is something that is going on unconsciously.
Now that you are aware of this, the next part will be for you to learn about why you would behave in ways that are holding you back. Ultimately, while how you behave won't make sense to your conscious mind, this part of you will understand what is going on once you are able to connect to what is taking place at a deeper level.
A Key Understanding
As a human being, your most powerful need will be to stay alive and, anything that is seen as a threat to your survival will be avoided. When it comes to what your being associates as what is safe, it is going to relate to what is familiar.
Interestingly, what is associated as familiar might actually be a threat to your survival. Taking this into account, behaving in a certain way can be seen as essential to your survival and yet it can be the very thing that is making it hard for you to survive and preventing you from thriving.
Back In Time
Still, while behaving in a certain way won't benefit you now, there was probably a time when it did benefit you. The period of your life when behaving in a certain way did benefit you could have been when you were a small child.
If this is so, as an adult you may have forgotten about what happened but you will still behave in the same way. In other words, what took place will be over but your being will still perceive reality in the same way, which is why you will still behave in the same way.
The Truth
For example, let's say that when you were a small child, getting close to your caregiver may have caused you to be harmed. Part of your being would have come to associate getting close to others as something that would cause you to be annihilated.
This would have taken place automatically and through forming this association, it would have kept you alive without needing to think about what to do to each time you were in the company of others. Your being would have made a generalisation and naturally, what took place in the company of one person or a few people wouldn't apply to everyone, but this is just how this part of your being works.
One Goal
It is a part of you that is very primitive; it can't think or reflect on if it has made the right decision. An association would have been formed and this association will have defined how you have perceived reality.
So, irrespective of if your early experiences caused you to associate keeping people at a distance or staying small and not being seen, for instance, as the only way for you to survive, you will now have a clear idea as to what you need to do to experience life differently. What is taking place at this level of your being will need to change for your life to change.
How Can I Serve You?
If you can relate to what I have written and need additional support, one of the ways that I can provide this is through the personalised consultations that I offer via Skype or Zoom.
To find out more, please go to http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/consultations. If you are committed to your own healing, it would be an honour to assist you on your journey.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
https://www.facebook.com/OliverJRCooper
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10319800
After you have behaved in a way that doesn't benefit you, you may wonder what was going on. The reason you may wonder what was going on is that you are unlikely to always be aware of the behaviours that are holding you back.
Confusion
Until you become aware of a certain limiting behaviour, how you behave will just be what is normal. And as it is normal, it will be a behaviour that is just outside of your conscious awareness.
Once you have become aware of a limiting behaviour, then, it could seem as though someone or something else is in control of you. What could make this worse is that even after you become aware of a destructive behaviour, you may find that you continue to behave in the same way.
For Example
Just about every area of your life can be impacted by your inability to behave in ways that benefit you. Perhaps your relationships are not very fulfilling or you might find it hard to form close bonds with others.
Or, you might find that you are unable to get very far in your career or you might stop yourself from even having a career. Without the understanding that you are holding yourself back, you would likely believe that you are a powerless victim who is nothing more than an observer of life.
The First Step
Fortunately, you will be in a position where you are able to see that this is not the case and that it is you, not anyone else, who is holding you back. Of course, this is not something that you are consciously doing; it is something that is going on unconsciously.
Now that you are aware of this, the next part will be for you to learn about why you would behave in ways that are holding you back. Ultimately, while how you behave won't make sense to your conscious mind, this part of you will understand what is going on once you are able to connect to what is taking place at a deeper level.
A Key Understanding
As a human being, your most powerful need will be to stay alive and, anything that is seen as a threat to your survival will be avoided. When it comes to what your being associates as what is safe, it is going to relate to what is familiar.
Interestingly, what is associated as familiar might actually be a threat to your survival. Taking this into account, behaving in a certain way can be seen as essential to your survival and yet it can be the very thing that is making it hard for you to survive and preventing you from thriving.
Back In Time
Still, while behaving in a certain way won't benefit you now, there was probably a time when it did benefit you. The period of your life when behaving in a certain way did benefit you could have been when you were a small child.
If this is so, as an adult you may have forgotten about what happened but you will still behave in the same way. In other words, what took place will be over but your being will still perceive reality in the same way, which is why you will still behave in the same way.
The Truth
For example, let's say that when you were a small child, getting close to your caregiver may have caused you to be harmed. Part of your being would have come to associate getting close to others as something that would cause you to be annihilated.
This would have taken place automatically and through forming this association, it would have kept you alive without needing to think about what to do to each time you were in the company of others. Your being would have made a generalisation and naturally, what took place in the company of one person or a few people wouldn't apply to everyone, but this is just how this part of your being works.
One Goal
It is a part of you that is very primitive; it can't think or reflect on if it has made the right decision. An association would have been formed and this association will have defined how you have perceived reality.
So, irrespective of if your early experiences caused you to associate keeping people at a distance or staying small and not being seen, for instance, as the only way for you to survive, you will now have a clear idea as to what you need to do to experience life differently. What is taking place at this level of your being will need to change for your life to change.
How Can I Serve You?
If you can relate to what I have written and need additional support, one of the ways that I can provide this is through the personalised consultations that I offer via Skype or Zoom.
To find out more, please go to http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/consultations. If you are committed to your own healing, it would be an honour to assist you on your journey.
Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/
Feel free to join the Facebook Group -
https://www.facebook.com/OliverJRCooper
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10319800
Wednesday, 8 July 2020
Monday, 6 July 2020
Growing Strong and Beautiful
Every year I put a few pots of annuals on my condo's deck. The other day I was disappointed to see that a storm had blown off all the blossoms from my trailing petunias. They were lying on the deck and needed to be swept away. A couple of days later, however, it shocked me to realize that there were even more blossoms on the plants that before the storm!
All this got me to thinking about how our lives can be very much like container gardening. Each of us is a plant that needs the following;
Vessel or container - There are likely millions of choices when it comes to where you will grow. Our country of origin usually provides us with values, language and customs. Some of us are from large cities where populations are crowded together while others were raised in wide open spaces where there was lots of room to move. Choosing a container for your plants is similar. You might be unique and plant in an old shoe or jar. Perhaps you are into recycling and will use a plastic bottle. Maybe you will plant in a vertically designed fashion. Our containers provide character.
Soil - It is important for our roots to be fed with the right nutrients and fertilizers so that we can gain strength. The people in our lives are our mentors and we are not only students of them but also gain inspiration from their presence. Different plants also require different types of soil and nourishment in order to have the best growing advantage.
Protection - Insects, animals, and disease can harm our plants, so we need to ensure that they are safe from damage. Even the weather, which is necessary for growth can cause harm at times. Some plants do better in full sun while others thrive in shade. As parents, we need to ensure that our children are encouraged to growth but not placed in vulnerable settings where they will be stunted. The same applies to our own lives.
Routine Care - You can't just plant and water one time in a season and expect good results. Plants need sun, water and weeding on a regular basis. We also need to practice good self-care regularly like eating nutritious meals, getting enough rest and exercising. Like plants, we also need time outdoors with an appropriate amount of sunshine to do well.
Transplanting - Often plants grow quickly and need to be moved into a different setting or container because of this. We, as people, can find ourselves in the same situation. Perhaps it is time for a new job, a new home or even a new location. Prepare the move, give the roots a little shake and move forward with hope.
I remember a speech that my dad gave at my cousin's wedding. He said that we are plants in a flowerbed that allows us to grow separately but near each other. There are flowerbeds of different types throughout the whole world. Which one is best for you?
Each of us contributes to the beauty of this world's flower garden. You certainly can't fix all the other plants growing around you, but you can ensure that your bloom is strong and beautiful.
Maybe it is time to apply some of your gardening skills to your personal life.
And now I would like to invite you to claim your Free Instant Access to a complimentary list of 10 Steps to Making Your Life an Adventure when you visit http://lindahancock.com
From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10320007
All this got me to thinking about how our lives can be very much like container gardening. Each of us is a plant that needs the following;
Vessel or container - There are likely millions of choices when it comes to where you will grow. Our country of origin usually provides us with values, language and customs. Some of us are from large cities where populations are crowded together while others were raised in wide open spaces where there was lots of room to move. Choosing a container for your plants is similar. You might be unique and plant in an old shoe or jar. Perhaps you are into recycling and will use a plastic bottle. Maybe you will plant in a vertically designed fashion. Our containers provide character.
Soil - It is important for our roots to be fed with the right nutrients and fertilizers so that we can gain strength. The people in our lives are our mentors and we are not only students of them but also gain inspiration from their presence. Different plants also require different types of soil and nourishment in order to have the best growing advantage.
Protection - Insects, animals, and disease can harm our plants, so we need to ensure that they are safe from damage. Even the weather, which is necessary for growth can cause harm at times. Some plants do better in full sun while others thrive in shade. As parents, we need to ensure that our children are encouraged to growth but not placed in vulnerable settings where they will be stunted. The same applies to our own lives.
Routine Care - You can't just plant and water one time in a season and expect good results. Plants need sun, water and weeding on a regular basis. We also need to practice good self-care regularly like eating nutritious meals, getting enough rest and exercising. Like plants, we also need time outdoors with an appropriate amount of sunshine to do well.
Transplanting - Often plants grow quickly and need to be moved into a different setting or container because of this. We, as people, can find ourselves in the same situation. Perhaps it is time for a new job, a new home or even a new location. Prepare the move, give the roots a little shake and move forward with hope.
I remember a speech that my dad gave at my cousin's wedding. He said that we are plants in a flowerbed that allows us to grow separately but near each other. There are flowerbeds of different types throughout the whole world. Which one is best for you?
Each of us contributes to the beauty of this world's flower garden. You certainly can't fix all the other plants growing around you, but you can ensure that your bloom is strong and beautiful.
Maybe it is time to apply some of your gardening skills to your personal life.
And now I would like to invite you to claim your Free Instant Access to a complimentary list of 10 Steps to Making Your Life an Adventure when you visit http://lindahancock.com
From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10320007
Sunday, 5 July 2020
Saturday, 4 July 2020
The Parameter Of Success
One of the biggest challenges we face is our misunderstanding of what success really is. Success is determined by so many factors that it's almost ludicrous to imagine that it can only be defined according to the amount of things you have accumulated or how high you rise in your career. These are the outwards measures of success, which has nothing to do with the reality of your personal life.
Too often, many people measure success by how much money they earn or their connections. Although, this is true at some extent, it isn't the full story because in the end the true measure of success comes from your ideas of what you actually want. You might find it odd to learn that some of the challenging times of life happen when you have lots of money.
Almost always, your goals are inward-focused; they are all about your accomplishments, your career, and your achievements. These clearly measure a degree of success, but they fall short of the true measure of success.The trouble happens when you don't have conscious choices; when you allow circumstances to dictate your time and your priorities. That's when success lulls you into the complacency of its momentum.
Few people realized that true success should be measured by how content and happy they are; especially in making a positive difference among other people's lives. It's normal to be overwhelmed with your encounters with famous and fascinating people.
But when you are able to build something from scratch and have a wonderful time learning, growing and becoming an expert in your craft, no amount of money can make you feel happy. It's you self-satisfaction that makes you happy especially when a deal is closed or a project is done.
Whilst there are a lot of people who have risen from adversity to the heights of success, comparing yourselves to others without knowing their personal circumstances will only lead to resentment and antipathy. Be sure that your success is something that you own rather than being owned by it.
Not that I blame you, but your upbringing can also have a huge impact not only on your ability to reach successful goals but also on your level of aspiration and ambition. If you were brought up to believe that we don't do things like that; then it can be extremely difficult to go against the expectations of others and actually succeed. This can be a real stumbling block as you run the risk of alienating yourself from those you love.
Money isn't just the key to success. Most people would assume business success, and the wealth that comes with it have brought happiness. Now, if you don't enjoy what you're doing, or aren't having a lot of fun despite making a lot of money or rubbing shoulders with the rich and famous - then it's time to move on to something that does make you happy and satisfied.
In fact, success doesn't have to be pre-defined by others' timelines and expectations. Everything in life happens for a reason at its own pace, and every little thing you do is already an achievement.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10313251
Too often, many people measure success by how much money they earn or their connections. Although, this is true at some extent, it isn't the full story because in the end the true measure of success comes from your ideas of what you actually want. You might find it odd to learn that some of the challenging times of life happen when you have lots of money.
Almost always, your goals are inward-focused; they are all about your accomplishments, your career, and your achievements. These clearly measure a degree of success, but they fall short of the true measure of success.The trouble happens when you don't have conscious choices; when you allow circumstances to dictate your time and your priorities. That's when success lulls you into the complacency of its momentum.
Few people realized that true success should be measured by how content and happy they are; especially in making a positive difference among other people's lives. It's normal to be overwhelmed with your encounters with famous and fascinating people.
But when you are able to build something from scratch and have a wonderful time learning, growing and becoming an expert in your craft, no amount of money can make you feel happy. It's you self-satisfaction that makes you happy especially when a deal is closed or a project is done.
Whilst there are a lot of people who have risen from adversity to the heights of success, comparing yourselves to others without knowing their personal circumstances will only lead to resentment and antipathy. Be sure that your success is something that you own rather than being owned by it.
Not that I blame you, but your upbringing can also have a huge impact not only on your ability to reach successful goals but also on your level of aspiration and ambition. If you were brought up to believe that we don't do things like that; then it can be extremely difficult to go against the expectations of others and actually succeed. This can be a real stumbling block as you run the risk of alienating yourself from those you love.
Money isn't just the key to success. Most people would assume business success, and the wealth that comes with it have brought happiness. Now, if you don't enjoy what you're doing, or aren't having a lot of fun despite making a lot of money or rubbing shoulders with the rich and famous - then it's time to move on to something that does make you happy and satisfied.
In fact, success doesn't have to be pre-defined by others' timelines and expectations. Everything in life happens for a reason at its own pace, and every little thing you do is already an achievement.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10313251
Friday, 3 July 2020
Thursday, 2 July 2020
Tips for Staying Clean After Opioid Detox
Detoxification is difficult, if not done correctly relapse becomes all too common. It's especially difficult with opioid addiction. Did you know that three out of four people relapse within a month after detoxification? Now mind you many of these folks were flying solo with a home detox plan. Some were working with an outpatient program. Seldom did relapses occur after finishing a medically monitored rehab center treatment utilizing a custom-tailored plan set to their situation and lifestyle. So, the statistics are not all that surprising (cite below).
Let's face it, rewiring your brain and body is hard enough, but that's not all that must be done. It will require a complete lifestyle change, perhaps a new set of friends as well. You'll need a comprehensive strategy and plan to prevent temptation. Consider if you will the stresses in your life that might trigger a desire to take opioids. Well, if you will work on yourself, you'll find things a lot easier.
Take a look at your new life without opioids. Think about all the positives and all the things you are now able to do and do well. Next consider things in your life that cause you angst, pain, stress, or depression. Work to limit those situations and find time to do the things that will help move you forward. Let's discuss this for a moment.
Implementing an Exercising Strategy to Prevent Opioid Relapse
By exercising your brain will release endorphins and put you in a positive mood. You will restore your physical and mental health. You will feel happier and healthier and fulfilled. When you work out, you will start eating better and improve your diet as well. Preventing depression and stress are two very commonly reported results known to those who work out on a regular basis. This is exactly what you need to keep your mind focused on your new life, rather than regressing into relapse.
If you are looking for the easiest and most helpful thing you can do to prevent a relapse, exercising on a regular basis (3 or more times per week) is the single smartest move you can make. You will be a happier version of yourself, and you will notice the results, and feel great. After all, this is the goal. No it's not going to be easy, nothing in life is, but if you want to have a long life without cutting it short due to addiction then you need to be thinking here.
Reference:
1. "Alternative to 'revolving door' of opioid detox and relapse." Boston University School of Medicine. ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 20 August 2019. Available free on Google Scholar
Lance Winslow is an Online Author, his latest eBook is about Substance Abuse, Addiction, and Dependency. Lance Winslow is semi-retired and Founder of the Online Think Tank http://www.WorldThinkTank.net - You may contact Lance Winslow by email for dialogue, discourse, discussion, or debate on interesting topics.
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Let's face it, rewiring your brain and body is hard enough, but that's not all that must be done. It will require a complete lifestyle change, perhaps a new set of friends as well. You'll need a comprehensive strategy and plan to prevent temptation. Consider if you will the stresses in your life that might trigger a desire to take opioids. Well, if you will work on yourself, you'll find things a lot easier.
Take a look at your new life without opioids. Think about all the positives and all the things you are now able to do and do well. Next consider things in your life that cause you angst, pain, stress, or depression. Work to limit those situations and find time to do the things that will help move you forward. Let's discuss this for a moment.
Implementing an Exercising Strategy to Prevent Opioid Relapse
By exercising your brain will release endorphins and put you in a positive mood. You will restore your physical and mental health. You will feel happier and healthier and fulfilled. When you work out, you will start eating better and improve your diet as well. Preventing depression and stress are two very commonly reported results known to those who work out on a regular basis. This is exactly what you need to keep your mind focused on your new life, rather than regressing into relapse.
If you are looking for the easiest and most helpful thing you can do to prevent a relapse, exercising on a regular basis (3 or more times per week) is the single smartest move you can make. You will be a happier version of yourself, and you will notice the results, and feel great. After all, this is the goal. No it's not going to be easy, nothing in life is, but if you want to have a long life without cutting it short due to addiction then you need to be thinking here.
Reference:
1. "Alternative to 'revolving door' of opioid detox and relapse." Boston University School of Medicine. ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 20 August 2019. Available free on Google Scholar
Lance Winslow is an Online Author, his latest eBook is about Substance Abuse, Addiction, and Dependency. Lance Winslow is semi-retired and Founder of the Online Think Tank http://www.WorldThinkTank.net - You may contact Lance Winslow by email for dialogue, discourse, discussion, or debate on interesting topics.
Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Lance_Winslow/5306
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10311499
Wednesday, 1 July 2020
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